What Is Compassionate Communication, or NVC?
“Nonviolent Communication can change the world. More importantly,
it can change your life. I cannot recommend it highly enough.”
– Jack Canfield, author, Chicken Soup for the Soul Series
Compassionate communication is a ground-breaking approach that helps us shift from judging, blaming and shaming our self and others to seeing our shared humanity and knowing all actions are an attempt to meet human needs. NVC is taught in over 60 countries. It creates a path for healing and reconciliation in many applications ranging from intimate relationships, work settings, health care, social services, police, prison staff and inmates, governments, schools, and social change organizations.
Marshall Rosenburg PhD, clinical psychologist, developed Nonviolent Communication (NVC) in the 1960s. NVC is a process of listening and speaking based on compassionate and honest self-expression. It is a powerful tool for peacefully resolving differences at personal, professional, and political levels.
NVC is taught in over 60 countries. It creates a path for healing and reconciliation in many applications ranging from intimate relationships, work settings, health care, social services, police, prison staff and inmates, governments, schools, and social change organizations.
Some of NVC’s Core Concepts
- All actions are people trying to get their needs met.
- We all have the same Universal needs for safety, belonging, love, connection, kindness, fun…
- Needs enrich our life ~ what we value ~ what is important to us
- We are responsible for our feelings and reactions by acknowledging our needs rather than the other person’s behavior as the cause of our feelings. People’s actions are the stimulus of our feelings, not the cause.
- This quality of connection in which everyone’s needs matter and are met thru compassionate giving rather than guilt, shame, power over etc.
- This Inspires shared power Win/win – instead of power over or power under.
- We hold all the needs as precious and seek solutions that work for everyone
- Expands your inner capacity to respond rather than reaction
“Marshall Rosenberg’s dynamic communication techniques transform potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues.”
-John Gray, author, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
“Placing the blame or judgment on someone else leaves you powerless to change your experience.
Taking responsibility for your beliefs and judgments gives you the power to change them” ― Byron Katie