Our feelings point toward our Needs
Feeling: When I slow down, pause and bring awareness to my breath, heart and body sensations, I begin feeling what is alive in the moment. I feel all my feelings/sensations because they give me information and connect me to my needs that live inside me. I invite my feelings in like a friend. I don’t push them down or make them wrong. Feelings are a body experience not a head experience. I check in with my feelings during the day because this supports me in self-connection and what my heart is longing for. Feelings change moment to moment depending on what is happening.
Feelings are the language of the body and are carried throughout our nervous system. As a daily practice, I take a breath and slow down and connect with myself. I ask myself, what am I feeling? What am I needing? This opens a door to self connection as I continue bringing awareness to my breath, body and all I am sensing.
If I am triggered and in emotional pain, sometimes I don’t even know what I want. I invite myself to slow down and bring awareness to my breath. As I feel my feelings and I approach myself with tenderness and compassionate presence. Then, I ask, what is my heart longing for? I don’t try to change anything, I am simply present to what is and this begins to open a door into more self connection and awareness. The by product is transformation.
During the day, I invite you to ask yourself, what am I feeling? What is my heart yearning for? This is an invitation into more self connection. As you feel your feelings, and bring awareness to your body sensations and your breath, this brings you into the moment.
If you are in emotional pain, do you have willingness to open your heart and approach yourself with compassionate tenderness? As we deepen in this process, our practice creates new neural pathways in the brain. It helps us shift out of fight, flight, and freeze and moves us into more whole brain state and wholehearted living.
If we check in with our feelings and needs when we are not stressed or triggered, then it is easier to approach ourselves with compassionate presence when we are triggered.
Embracing and integrating this consciousness is likely to require changes in our internal connection to ourselves and healing of past pain. Emotional distress is often linked to painful events from the past and triggered in the present by a similar stimulus. This might be a facial expression, tone of voice, gesture, phrase, etc. I call these traumatic imprints, which are often embedded with unconscious beliefs, behaviors, emotions, and unprocessed memory from the past.
“Marshall Rosenberg’s dynamic communication techniques transform potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues.” – John Gray, author, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
Every time a feeling is named accurately the activation level in the amygdala drops.
The amygdala stores the unprocessed memory of a trauma.
Living with self compassion is a different speed of life ~ Robert Gonzales.
The following lists are neither exhaustive nor definitive. They are meant as a starting place to support anyone who wishes to engage in a process of deepening self-discovery and to facilitate greater understanding and connection between people.